Tuesday, July 21, 2015

Biblical Wife

1) A Worker at Home

It is clear that God has given the home to women as their domain. Man are called to lead and provide for their family and we are called to care for our home and our family. Women struggle with many different areas, but being lazy in your home and also being too busy and out of the home often can lead to a wife who isn't fulfilling her role in this area. This is not to say that women should only be in the home, nor is it to say that they should never work outside of the home. As my husband always says, don't hear what I'm not saying. What I am saying is this: a wife's primary responsibility is their home.

We see that God calls women to be workers at home many times in Scripture (Titus 2:3-5, 1 Timothy 5:14-15) and we have an excellent example from the Proverbs 31 women and can learn a valuable lesson from her. She was always busy working within and for her home.

"She looks for wool and flax, and works with her hands in delight…She rises also while it is still night, and gives food to her household, and portions to her maidens…She considers a field and buys it, from her earnings she plants a vineyard…her lamp does not go out at night… She stretches out her hands to the distaff, and her hands grasp the spindle… all her household are clothed with scarlet…She makes coverings for herself; her clothing is fine linen and purple…She makes linen garments and sells them, and supplies belts to the tradesmen…She looks well to the ways of her house, and does not eat the bread of idleness."  Proverbs 31:13, 15-16, 18-19, 21-22, 24, 27
Instead of feeling discouraged at how much the Proverbs 31 wife does, we should feel encouraged by her example and strive to emulate her. God gives the home to us as our domain and we should strive to be hard workers at home.

2) Love

All Christians are called to generally love, but wives are specifically called to love their family. Older women are instructed to train the younger women in how to live a Godly life:

"And so train the young women to love their husbands and children, to be self-controlled, pure, working at home, kind, and submissive to their own husbands, that the word of God may not be reviled." Titus 2: 4-5
The kind of love that God calls wives to isn't conditional and based upon feelings. This kind of love isn't the kind that you can "fall out" of. It isn't an optional love, it's a commandment. Martha Peace shares in  The Excellent Wife:

"Godly love is not primarily a feeling, it is a choice. It will help you show love if you will think objectively (Biblically), not subjectively (based on feelings)" Page 84.
3) Respect for your husband

Most modern TV shows and movies portray husbands as goofballs and not responsible enough to  do anything but sit around and watch football. But as Christians, we know that this isn't what a Godly husband should look like. And yet, Christian women often treat their husbands like the wives on those TV shows. They scold their husbands and treat them like they are children. But this isn't how God instructs Godly women to act.

"However, let each one of you love his wife as himself, and let the wife see that she respects her husband." Ephesians 5:33
Often, when a husband loves their wives the way they should, it is easy for a wife to respect her husband. Likewise, when a wife shows respects to her husband, it is easier for them to show love the way they should. While this is usually a nice trade off, it doesn't always work. Even if a wife doesn't feel loved by her husband, this isn't an excuse to not show respect to her husband. Why? Because God commands it.

4) Intimacy (response to husband)

Of course this is the big one, intimacy. So many wives struggle with this in their marriage and many husbands and wives feel less than satisfied in their sex life. Peace shares, "The sexual bond between husband and wife is a gift from God for the enjoyment of physical intimacy and the procreation of life. All that God created is good, and physical intimacy is no exception" Pg 119.

God created sex within marriage, and He created it as gift for us. But some wives can struggle to see this as a gift and only as an obligation instead. There is a lot more to be said on this subject,  but the bottom line is that God does intend for each couple to have a sex life that is fulfilling for both husband and wife.

"Let each man have his own wife, and let each woman have her own husband. Let the husband fulfill his duty to his wife, and likewise also the wife to her husband. The wife does not have  authority over her own body, but the husband does; and likewise also the husband does not have authority over his own body, but the wife does. Stop depriving one another, except by agreement for a time that you may devote yourselves to prayer" 1 Corinthians 7:2-5. 
5) Submission

Submission is such a touchy subject today, but it is clear what Scripture teaches on the subject. Those who find excuses in order to ignore it are doing just that, making excuses and not looking to Scripture as their final authority. In a Biblical marriage, where both spouses are striving to live their God-given roles, the husband would ideally lead his wive lovingly and she would graciously submit.

This leading and submitting would be mutually beneficial and ultimately glorifying to God. However, a husband doesn't always lovingly lead and the wife doesn't always graciously and loving submit. But this doesn't excuse either side from their roles. Submission is a much bigger topic than can be addressed in these few paragraphs, so to explore more on submission I highly recommend these resources:

Thank You,
Jireha Davis

Monday, March 23, 2015

Trust Me

Why do people say trust me then do things that make you not want to? Why delete messages if you have nothing to hide. Why let your bm continue to talk inappropriately? I wish you were single so i can spend time and go out. I want to talk but i don't think i should say. Um no bitch you probably shouldn't. And what happened to only talking about the kids? What happened to cutting her off. Why did you not say if its not about the kids don't bother? Oh that's right, I'm your bitch. Your dog 🐕 right. Your pet? That must make you my master right daddy? But you think it's petty and you don't care. Don't you even see the principal of keeping your word? Was getting caught cheating with this bitch not enough? She may not find better but I'm starting to think that's just because she doesn't deserve it.

Not to mention you have a toothache so that makes its OK to be a dick to me all day? Even with your sorry. I've taken care of you. You found a same day appointment. Why didn't you know about this place when it was me? And i worked all day through mine. Had to pay 20 for the er and your meds were only 18 shit. I'm never as important as you. Not even to myself. Shit we both worried about you...Trust me

Thursday, March 19, 2015


Wondering what lesson I'm supposed to be learning here...i feel like I'm nothing. Like I'm just here for how i benefit others. When the person you want to spend the rest of your life with would rather sleep than talk to you, makes you wonder why you're there. Spent my life waiting to be the most important thing to someone. Hell anyone. But no one wants me. They just want what i can do for them. Its like whatever i want everyone else wants the opposite...why would anyone want to give me anything anyway. Who cares about being faithful or monogamous when you got a girl who would rather give you permission to fuck everyone than risk you cheating. Who cares about foreplay when you gonna nut regardless. Who cares about how much pain I'm in if they can't feel it...nobody. I just want to be the center of attention to somebody who genuinely can't get enough of me. That will never happen.

Friday, March 6, 2015

Why ME

"You keep saying sexually single..  I just want to be able to fk a bitch from time to time without coming home and be accused of cheating or arguing about the shyt.... I'm so tired of all the petty shyt... You don't don't like sex as much as i do... Yes i said that cause i just want to bust a nut with another bitch and you don't... I just want to be able to tell you yes i am horny as hell and you jump me but no, you don't... You get mad for how horny i am sometimes cause that's "THE ONLY THING ON MY MIND".... I just want to fk freely... If i cant fk you and I've already fkd myself possibly 3-6 times already... WTF"

Tuesday, February 10, 2015

Birthday Wishes

All I wanted was a proposal...its been a month. The mailman has came. What else are you waiting on? So many opportunities. I feel like not only have I earned it I've earned saying no if I wanted to. Like he was so worried about me still saying yes when he proposes but still has no intention on asking! I'm just over it at this point. He wants me to let him in and to be happy and all this stuff that requires trust but won't commit. Why should I trust a cheater who'd risk losing me over $300! All I can think about is how that baby could be his. And how I'm still gonna probably be right here even if she is waiting on him to want me enough. What's wrong with me?

Saturday, February 7, 2015


I'm so tired of the same shit all the time. How is it no one ever seems to know How to take care of or look out for me. Most of what I do for others is what I want done for me. If I fall asleep in my clothes wake me up so I can take them off. Like simple shit. How many times do I have to explain it. I'm just gonna have to look out for myself and I'm having a hard time with that. Like how hard is it to think about me. Maybe I'm just being a child and need to realize I'm the only one that gives 2 fucks about me falling asleep in my clothes. Should probably stop caring about anyone else too.

Saturday, January 31, 2015


Why do you have to lie to me? I paid attention to you listened to you and read between the lines. I took the time to figure out on my own what was going on. I came to you, talked to you. I did my job as a good gf and checked up on how you were feeling. Then you basically tell me to leave it alone. Its bad enough fb knew how you felt before I could put the pieces together...

But you just gone hit her up and vent. Tell her what's on your mind and get her support for your decision. Tell her how you cried and how she's made you feel. Still hurting over y'all relationship and letting her talk shit. If it ain't her reminiscing its you.

Top all that with a bold faces lie to my face. Nope I ain't talk to her about how I feel. Stop worrying. I tell you it's hard not to worry (because I love you duh) and you come back with "if I leave now will you feel better". Wtf! Really? First you lie then be an ass. Oh and I'm dying to know what she knows/can do to "ruin Wtf you got going on". And you wonder why I don't trust you easy. Y'all not even supposed to be friends like that anymore. You say she owe you her life for the shit she said in that video but she threaten you and you shut all the way up. What's really going on? I guess I got stupid tattooed on my forehead right? Here I am having dreams about you killing yourself and leaving your kids and I but you can't even be honest with me.

She more upset about having to take care of the kids than anything happening to you. Don't even realize you wasn't talking about running away with me but possibly taking a 🔫 to your fucking head! Who the fuck do you really think is in your corner? That means when you pull the trigger your blood is on my hands. Not hers. She gone let you do what you do and as far as the kids in her eyes she ain't gonna be doing nothing she don't do already. She gonna tell you she still loves you but basically don't care. But I'm the one you lie to. I'm the one in this situation with you. Fucking kill me too then shit.